99% of People in Self Development Get This One Thing Wrong

Do you pay much attention to the words you speak?

Several years ago I was listening to a very successful business man and spiritual teacher speak on stage. He said, “If I could give you one thing and one thing only that would change the course of your life, it would be this: speak only what you desire.”

It’s very easy to see that 99% of people have no clue how powerful their words are. All they speak of is what they don’t want to happen and how terrible everything is. Is it any wonder that is their life experience.

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits. - Proverbs 18:21

You words are so powerful and the creator of your reality. They work two ways. They come out from what is going on within and are a signifier as to your inner state. They also work from without to influence our state of being. You hear yourself speak, just as you hear others speak and are influenced by those words. Speaking only of what you want influences you, your feelings, your thoughts and programs you for good.

Just give it a go. Speak out loud “I love myself. I love my life. Everything is always working out for me. I’m so lucky because I can see, and hear, and taste and touch. Each and every day I’m getting better and better. I’m learning and growing and have so many things to be thankful for!”

Do you feel even the slightest bit better? Very likely you didn’t do what I said and you read that last chunk in your head. Stop. Go back. Read it out loud and don’t move forward until you’ve done that.

Now Assuming you’ve read it out loud you will feel that your words impacted your state.

There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. - Proverbs 12:18

So the first thing to do is become aware. Listen to yourself when you speak and observe how often you speak of things you actually don’t want. Everything from “I hope it doesn’t rain on our camping trip” to “It probably won’t work anyways” to “I always get sick around Christmas time” to “I’m shy” to “I can’t” and so on. If you took tabs of what you spoke (let alone what you thought) you’d be surprised how much of what you say is about what you don’t want.

Let me tell you…you’re creating with your words.

For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; - 1 Peter 3:1

The seemingly positive words that are sabotaging you.

Now, you may be the person that is thinking that you’ve already got this. You speak positively and have a great attitude. Well, keep reading because this is something I see as a huge pitfall in the self development world. There is a subtlety in language that makes a big difference in results.

Here are some of the main words that get used by positive people that hold them back

1. Try - this words is mistaken as positive. “I’m going to try to workout out 5 times a week.” But this word is riddled with doubt.
2. Hope - Again, this word is seemingly positive. “You gotta have hope. I hope it works.” If you’re hoping, you’re leaving room for it not to workout.
3. Wish - This word oozes of lack. You want something but don’t really think you’ll get it.
4. Want - It takes some effort to get this word out of your narrative. Want is a lack statement. If you want something then you don’t have it. If you know anything about manifestation, you know that you must feel now as if you already have what you want. So if you want it, you’re feeling that you don’t have it.

Now this next one is going to really get you. The thing is almost all of the self development gurus get this wrong. Once you know this, you’ll hear it everywhere.

The sneaky word that is riddles through almost all of the self development books, seminars, teachings, audios is the word

Believe.

Think about this for a second. Do you believe the sun will rise tomorrow, or do you know it will?

Do you see the difference? Belief still has a seed of doubt in it. You have to work at belief. You have to conjure it up. But knowing takes no effort. You just know and move on.

This state of knowing your desires are already done is where you must exist.

Why do all the teachers say “Believe”? Because that is what they were taught from their teachers. What they don’t realize is that they are in a state of knowing even though they are using the word “Believe.” When they say they became successful when they believed they could be, they really knew they were successful. It was a done deal for them.

This is a subtle shift in language but a big shift in vibration. Know that it is yours, that it’s done, that it’s successful, and it is so.

Create with your words

Now take this knowledge and speak your desire into your life. Say things like “I am loved, loving, and lovable. I am worthy. I am abundantly wealthy and clear on my purpose. I know miracles happen every day. I am getting better and better every day. Things always work out for me. I am happy, healthy and free. I know my goals are already achieved.”

If I told you that everything you spoke would come true, what would you say?

Well, it does. So be wise with your words.

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